Are You Present With Your Children?
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How frequently are you fully and wholly present once you’re with your kids? Among the biggest gifts we could bring about to our kids is to be fully present with them. This could frequently be a great challenge.
The message you give to your kids once you do not spend quality time being fully present is that they are not important. Once responding the telephone, or getting things done, or thinking of what you’ve to do tomorrow is more crucial than being present with your kids, they get the message that being with them and really acknowledging them isn’t very important to you.
Whenever it’s not important to you to barely be with your children – talking with them, playing with them, taking a walk, holding them, listening to them, sharing love with them, gazing at them with love – then they’ll likely not feel loved by you.
No matter how numerous things you purchase them, or how frequently you tell them you love them, if they’re not important enough to you to actually be with them, then it’s probably they’ll not experience loved and cherished by you.
Your kids need your focused attention, and once they do not get it, they could attract for it in various ways. They might chatter on and on, attempting to keep your attention. They might act out by fighting with one another, or by not listening to you or going into resistance regarding chores, homework, hygiene, bedtime, and so forth.
For several children, even negative attention feels better than no attention. This might produce a really negative vicious circle, in that the more they act out, the less you feeling like being with them, but the less you’re with them in a loving and attentive way, the more they could act out.
Consider about how you feeling while someone gives you his or her fully care. Doesn’t it feel fantastic? How often does someone look you in the eyes and give you his or her full care? How often do you experience really heard by someone? Unfortunately, a lot of people are so intent on being listened to and heard that they don’t listen and hear.
The simple act of being fully present with your kids will act more for them than you can think. You have an chance to give your children a big present – being fully present with them with your love, compassion, empathy, concern, sense of humor, playfulness, and affection. You have the opportunity every day, even whenever it’s barely for half an hour, to fully cherish them.
They grow up so fast. Do not miss this chance every day.
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