PARENT’S RELATIONSHIP WITH CHILDREN
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The first and foremost Educators and teachers for the child is not actually a teacher at the school, but parents. Child psychologist and education leaders say children often, that one thing that needs to be done by parents in an effort to provide good education to children is the emotional relationship of parents and children, which needs to be done since the kids were babies. One of the manifestations of touch, caress, hug, kiss and talk with children. If the child gets older, oral communication was more important.
Listen to opinions and feelings of children raised. Children will feel that parents have the attention to himself, trying to understand him, so he was trained to express feelings and opinions. It is important for parents to train yourself to be a good listener. Parents tend to talk with the child and began asking “why” or “when”. Or tend to speak in a tone of command, angry or patronizing. “Why not eat the vegetables?”, “Do homework now!”, “When did you learn to listen mama?” And sometimes a father only spoke to his son, advised him at length when the child has made a mistake.
Questions like this will discredit the child so that he would defend himself or silent. But when the questions began with “What” or “How”. What do you do that? How was school? So the question will open the children to tell stories. Therefore, the childs-parent communication can take place in both directions, and then the parents must be out feeling. “I’m glad your grades good in school”. “I’m proud of you.”
It is better if parents deliberately make time each day for children or to create a habit with children, so children know that there is a special time in which the parents have. Intimate relationship with the child’s needs and should exercise started in young children. The relationship becomes difficult when the new building started at the time was a big kid or a teenager already.
Dr. Matti Gershenfeld, a PhiladelphiaTemple University psychologist giving formula for parents who want to improve the quality of parent child relationships. There are four factors to note are:
• Physically adjacent to the child
• Presence of eye contact
• Caress
• Oral Communication
The principle is an information captured would be easier if we receive information through multiple senses. Is not that love is also an information that we wish to convey to the child?
Let us compare these two attitudes. When it was time to sleep, if she just screamed, “Go to sleep! “Or” Good evening! “From afar, then the opportunity will pass without a trace. Different if the mother accompanied her into the bedroom, sitting next to the child’s time to kiss his forehead saying, “Good night”! the activities of the mother is an act of intimate relationship with the child. Dr. Gershenfeld said that if parents get into the four factors in daily activities, your child will more easily grasp and feel the love of parents. That every parent loves their children could not be denied. But buried love is useless. Compassion is necessary to show intentional to children, then the child feel loved. If this is achieved, then the inner contact with the child’s parents easily established.
The presence of parents with children do not guarantee a good emotional relationship between parent-child. For example, a mother lifting her baby who was crying as she rocked, kissed, and persuade with words. The baby smiles, the mother was smiling. Each is showing a sense of excitement. Then there was the emotional connection. But if the mother’s mind in another place, attention is only focused so he can quickly change the baby, the baby still and she can return quickly to the kitchen to finish cooking, the quality of the relationship between mother and child was considered bad.
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